Whips Or Kisses

I am a dominant woman to my core, pure and simple.  I am educated, successful and very secure in myself.  I know what I want and how to get it, usually with minimal effort on my part.  I enjoy control and power, particularly over other people.  To me power is not simply a means to an end, it is my calling.  I realized a long time ago that I was meant to have domain over others.  I believe that if you are willing to give me control, it is my right to take it.  I live by this philosophy without regret or reservation and frankly it has served me well.

To say that I am “a lifestyle Domme” simply does not fully convey who I am or how I live.  D/s is engrained in every aspect of my life, from the most mundane, everyday task to my deepest carnal desires.  Whether it is how my refrigerator is stocked or how I am satisfied in the bedroom, power and control, specifically my power and my control over others, are my instruments of contentment.  I skillfully employ them everyday and with great delight, needless to say I am very content.  Understand, my life is not a game; I do not play at this. I am simply a woman who loves subverting others and bending them to my will.  How I assert myself, and what I do once I have established control, is frankly what sets me apart.

Though I enjoy the props of D/s and BDSM, (i.e. handcuffs, rope, a sturdy crop), the real tools of my trade are thought and emotion.  My ability to manipulate what a submissive thinks and feels is my strength and my source of power. I enjoy reorienting how they see themselves and their relationship to the world around them, particularly with me at the center. A true submissive is an open book to me and I revel in the process of molding them to suit my purposes.  I don’t see this as particularly sinister or malicious, it simply is what it is and I make no apologies for it. What I enjoy most about working with a submissive at this level is that one can inflict not just pain but long lasting psychological and emotional torment.  I find that this provides me with a most profound satisfaction.

Don’t get me wrong, I love and respect all my submissives immensely.   But I expect them to understand their place and I most definitely expect them to stay there. I am a strong believer that a submissive’s behavior should reflect their position, particularly in the presence of others. Without equivocation or hesitation, I expect a submissive to be extremely respectful and deferential. Additionally, and just as importantly, they should not expect to be treated any better or worse than their position allows. In short, a good submissive understands who and what they are, knows to conduct themselves appropriately AT ALL TIMES, and doesn’t make a fuss when they are treated less than kindly.

I am a woman of contradictions; I can be tender while inflicting the most profound anguish, I can still harbor great love and respect while being contemptuous and cruel. I can do this because I know the true submissive heart desires to give of one’s self; and what makes it all the more delicious is their need to suffer for it. My gift to them is in the taking.  I do not alter my life to suit others, others adjust their lives to be a part of mine and I find that works best for me.